Without the right structure and support, creating lasting change isn’t just difficult… it’s nearly impossible. 

Researchers like Alan Deutschman have shown that even when people are faced with life-or-death stakes, most still don’t follow through on change unless certain key conditions are in place.

And if you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the things, the workshops, the YouTube videos, the self-help books, but still find yourself stuck in the same cycles, you’re not alone.

In fact, you’re human.

Maybe you feel motivated for a week or two. You start strong, with fresh energy and big intentions. 

But slowly, without even noticing, your goals drift to the back burner. A few weeks later, you wonder how you lost momentum… again.

It can feel like emotional whiplash. Bursts of inspiration that rev the engine… followed by the all-too-familiar slam on the brakes. Forward, then back. Drive, then doubt.

Here’s the truth no one really talks about: Inspiration isn’t enough.

Our nervous systems are wired for the familiar. We cling to known patterns, even when they’re uncomfortable or misaligned. Not because we’re weak or lazy—but because our brains equate “familiar” with “safe.”

So if we want to break a cycle—whether it’s procrastination, self-doubt, burnout, or playing small—we need more than another hit of motivation.

We need rigor.
We need support.
We need structure.

That’s why I always have a coach or mentor in my life. 

Someone who could see the patterns I couldn’t, challenge the stories I’d normalized, and walk with me through the discomfort of change until it became my new normal.

Because without that level of support, we tend to drift right back into what we’ve always known.

So if you’re tired of starting over… If you’re craving real, sustainable transformation, not just flashes of it… Ask yourself: 

• What kind of structure am I building around my growth?
• And who is helping me stay accountable to the version of me I say I want to become?

Change is possible. But it rarely happens in isolation. We’re not meant to do this work alone. 

If this sounds like you:

• You’re ready for support, structure, and a clear path forward
• You would love to move beyond the patterns that keep you stuck—but also know you don’t want to do it alone
• This message is resonating, and you want real, lasting change… but you’re not quite sure where to begin

Then coaching might be your next right step.

Just email rajika@rajikamahan.com and we’ll set up a time to chat. No pressure—just a genuine conversation about where you are, where you want to go, and what’s in the way.

You can do this. And with the right support, it might even feel a lot easier (and dare I say… fun?) than you ever expected. 😉